I got this unexpected email:

I’ve been fascinated with this concept since finishing Elise
Sutton’s Female Domination. . .. have to
wonder, how do you get a submissive to get on it if he isn’t
“willing” or he has the inner strength to submit to such.
Seems I would really have to have a good reason.

Beyond getting a non-submissive boyfriend to play bedroom games she’d fail. He’d eventually get tired of it and leave. There’s always the chance of latent submissiveness but there’s no winning in striving for the unlikely.

People need to understand that BDSM – D/s, S&M, Bondage, Humiliation – these erotic needs, desires, inclinations are issue of sexual orientation. Just as much as gender orientation.

The sadist or masochist can’t stop being who they are anymore than a gay man can be converted by Marcus Bachmann into a heterosexual.

Being dominant or submissive is an issue of inner nature. Qualities settled in us when we were innocent children. Fighting against your sexuality only leads to unhappiness.

And people are kinky in their own individual way. And there desires and pleasures often modify in the presence of a top or bottom they really enjoy being with.

If you are a sadist, dominant or masochist, submissive person and your lover or spouse doesn’t share your needs then you need to either leave the relationship or arrange for your partner to your exploring BDSM with others.

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I’ve often written about men – tops and bottoms – whose profiles seem to have been written when they were emotionally intoxicated by porn. Drunk with sadistic excess.

There’s a very different class.

Man who post personal ads on kinky hookup and dating sites want many different things: conventional SSCM or RACK BDSM sessions, a slave girl lover, just somebody to keep house and suck his cock.

Or maybe just a girlfriend. There are men who show know sign that they understand that many of the women on the site what to be whipped and even degraded.

These guys seem to be looking for vanilla sweethearts. Is Master Nice Guy reading for a girl who wants to be locked in a cage, pissed on and told she’s a worthless slut?

They often say they want a special lady. No qualifications. Were I a heteorsexual women the very phrase special lady would push me away. You suspect he spent his youth watching the Lifetime Network.

I’d really like to hear from bottoms who perhaps dealt with a Master Nice Guy.

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Gratiutious photograph: Jake Drummond

I understand confusion, self-doubt and dismay at the limitations of online profiles and personal ads.

I have multiple profiles: each is an attempt to display in a distinct fashion my masochism and submissiveness. I’ve seen others, including tops do the same.

But one male dominant’s profiles suggest he is so mixed-up and uncertain that the idea of him being in control of another person ia disturbing.

He’s created eight different profiles in the last three days. Some are blank, others have a sentence. His stated age varies from 38 to 39. His height: 5’4″ – 5’5″. His weight by at least ten pounds – and he’s overweight or a mountain of muscle regardless.

The variation in profile names isn’t meaningful.

Poor man.

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This short profile from someone in rural North Carolina gave me pause:

46yr old single father of two looking for a submissive, slave or switch to join me and my sons in kinky BDSM play

Genetic considerations aside I can see no justifications for the incest taboo assuming the two are fairly mature and sensible. Not that I find the idea exciting myself. I once did have a dream of having sex with my sister. I didn’t welcome that dream and am glad it never reoccurred.

But – call it cultural conditioning – something about a dad and his two sons binding, beating, sexually using the same woman leaves me inexorably queasy. Images of an inbred and dysfunctional redneck family flash into my mind. Perhaps unfairly.

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Own or run a successful business… but you are a sub?

I am a professional, clean cut Dom, very capable, with a taste for power and control.

Bring me on your staff, at a reasonable salary, give me the title of my choice, and I will work at home.

A nature so giving is almost unbearable.

Dept. of standard patter:

What I require is ultimate respect and obedience. Anything less than that will NOT be tolerated – EVER.

Only 1 will serve me. Terms are for life. You will be exclusively mine to experiment, and do with as I wish.

This would be clever if he were likely to find someone so foolish. EVER!

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Dominant male looking for submissive female

That kind of aimless cluelessness is one quality that I don’t want in a dominant. I’m sure most submissive women agree.

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If on the other hand you are looking to become a real Full-Time slave there will never be release or escape from being my property ever again.

(Sorry Jack but this isn’t Gor. Are you hankering to join Glenn Marcus in the federal pen? )

Although I may choose to display you to others , you will never be allowed out in public alone again with out permission except for such as working at a job or other things I will that I may aprove.

At least he doesn’t say he’s compassionate.

There will be no going out alone by yourself merely for you personal pleasure. If you are my full time property

I wonder: has anybody ever called himself Sir 1984?

If I chose to take you to another place for display or use in front of, or require you to service other Masters and slaves, I WILL DO SO

By this time most female submissives will have gone on to read other profiles.

Once you become my property you will have no rights, and no choices or limitss other than those I choose to grant you after disscusing what you feel you realy need.

I’m sure all the girls are just lining up waiting to climb in your cage.

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Looking for worthless slaves to be
used as fuckmeat and cum receptacles. Prefer naturally submissive, shy, quiet, unassuming, low self-esteem.

Not looking for
relationship, scenes, etc., Just
something to fuck and discard until
the next time, without any regard as a person, like a mangy bitch dog.

If you are in this category and know
this is what you deserve, let me know.

Age and physicality are not an issue. Just be totally submissive

Some women would say this is just a typical male.

Let’s be honest there are plenty of people who will find this exciting to read. To be brutally frank this sort of arrangement is probably the best some bottoms can hope for (or – perhaps – capable of).

But.

BDSM without the option of a safeword is a serious risk.

There’s no promise of safe sex. Is the risk of becoming HIV+ really worth it? Are you that desperate?

Someone who is looking for men and women with low self-esteem could very well be a predator, a sociopath.

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