I’ve long known of French BDSM artist Waldo’s F/m and M/f illustrations. It was yesterday that I discovered that he’s also produced gay male BDSM images.
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Paul Baresi being a blonde young man such a severe OTK hand spanking. He must have just started since the youth’s buttock’s are still white.
Sadomasochism Comprises Sexual Orientations
I got this unexpected email:
Beyond getting a non-submissive boyfriend to play bedroom games she’d fail. He’d eventually get tired of it and leave. There’s always the chance of latent submissiveness but there’s no winning in striving for the unlikely. People need to understand that BDSM – D/s, S&M, Bondage, Humiliation – these erotic needs, desires, inclinations are issue of sexual orientation. Just as much as gender orientation. The sadist or masochist can’t stop being who they are anymore than a gay man can be converted by Marcus Bachmann into a heterosexual. Being dominant or submissive is an issue of inner nature. Qualities settled in us when we were innocent children. Fighting against your sexuality only leads to unhappiness. And people are kinky in their own individual way. And there desires and pleasures often modify in the presence of a top or bottom they really enjoy being with. If you are a sadist, dominant or masochist, submissive person and your lover or spouse doesn’t share your needs then you need to either leave the relationship or arrange for your partner to your exploring BDSM with others. Another late 1970s butch guy tired up out among the trees. Don’t you wish these men would show more emotion?
In May of 2009 a very sweet sounding guy, confused a bit about gender, bisexuality and his submissiveness wrote me via BDSM Romance asking for advice. I promised a quick reponse. Yesterday I finally answered him. Elsewhere: To a Bisexual, Submissive, Feminine Boy Varieties of Ruined Orgasmic Experience
Ruined Orgasm I Many years ago during a period when I was looking for an outlet for my masochism a man who wrote me had a sadistic desire that was new to me. The guy wanted to tie me up and masturbate me to and past orgasm. The continued massaging of my penis would eventually become painful. Having been a sometimes too enthusiastic wanker I knew my penis could become sore. What an exciting idea. (Sadly he decided that he wanted to explore his own masochism and we never met.) Ruined Orgasm II A device, finger, dildo, Aneros prostate massager is used to stimulate a man’s prostate gland. This forces him to ejaculate without having any sort of orgasm. Technically there is no orgasm involved but involunatarily mimicking the results of an orgasms is dehumanizing and humiliating. This has always struck me as a very moving experience. To have your physiological response manipulated inddependent of your actions or intenions. Ruined Orgasm iII A few years later focussing exclusively on F/m BDSM I read an entry on male genital manipulate:
My synapses contorted themselves into new shapes when I read that. I wish I’d copied the entire, quite long, entry. The blog is long gone but it always seemed to actually be written by a woman in a F/m power exchange relationship. How profoundly humbling to have one of a man’s greatest delights so diminished, made feeble. Ruined Orgasms IV From another F/m blog:
This blog entry was much longer. I was rapt with helpless fascination. But clearly the account was fiction presented as truth. Perhaps only to give the story a greater sadomasochistic thrill. Ruined Orgasm Summary The first is pure S&M. The masochist’s penis is forced to endure pain. This is so much the opposite of what is expected from the genitals that it is almost shocking. The second is also pure physical manipulation of a man’s sexual organs. His power over himself is literally taken away. It seems like a species of consensual sexual assault. In the third a man is masturbated in a carefully structured manner. The goal is to elicit an orgasm without pleasure. The man’s body is pushed to climix perhaps by duration. With the fourth we find a man caculatingly brought to orgasm only to have the stimulation removed with cunning timing to render the orgasm pleasureless. The first and second kinds of male sexual manipulation are actually practiced. The third and four have captured the mind’s of masochistic men as the most humiliating. Especially number four. It is the kind of ruined orgasm men search the web for. The Runied Orgasm Myth A BDSM urban legend I think. Of course I speak only with the authority of my own body. I’ve certainly had orgasms that I felt could’ve been better. I’ve had orgasms after taking my hand from my penis just a moment too soon. Sometimes I’ve had orgasms that didn’t result in ejaculation. My body still shuddered. Pleasure surged through me. Even my mildest, most flawed and least competently achieved orgasms gave me pleasure. Your can be over-masturbated to pain. Your prostate can be massaged to ejaculation without orgasm. But even the most minimal orgasm is fun. Young Richard had just discovered his same sex loving component and it reallyh shook up his world. He moved to the big city (Atlanta) where there were many exciting things not to be found back home in Savannah. Like adult bookshops. I never became a habitué. But it was a good place to begin the study of homosex. Back then there were these really trashy, sleazy sex tabloids. I bought one. It was filled of things not dreamed of in my philosophy. Like butt plugs. Who knew such things existed. Why did they exist? (Something I’ve yet to understand.) There were things that grab my imagination and would color my BDSM fantasies forever. There was a crude drawing of a man in bondage. His neck collar as connected to a testicle collar. Movement would pull at his balls or squeeze his neck. I’d just discovered predicament bondage. Maybe the drawing is why my testicles are so deeply connected with submissive emotions (otherwise they are just there unless I – ouch! – bump into something).
The response of my internal plethysmograph testify to how testicle bondage excites me.
For those who enjoy images of bound butch men.
The bondage is mild. But being on my knees is very important to me. It isn’t an position without value. With his face averted I an project my feelings into his seemingly patient submission.
Model’s name unknown. Photograph: Usher. Appeared in the April 1981 issue of Honcho magazine. Looks like someone tied their male slave to a tree and wandered off. For ten years I was an only child. And even after the birth of my sister my mother regarded my happiness and ultimate outcome as the center of her life. That had good and bad consequences that I won’t talk about here. The idea of being tied up and then (temporarily) deserted reaches deep down into my brain. How frightening to be deserted. Alone. How hungry you would be for the one who left you there. How grateful when she or he returned. It is the intensification of gratitude that draws me most strongly in concieving of certain scenarios. I crave to feel thankful. As thankful as I was to the momma who would never ever stopped feeling that whatever I did wrong I was still the most important thing in the universe.
The visually inclined may not that this bound young man offers ample space for CBT. Lots and lots of clothespins are indicated.
The young man’s name: Robert Cooper. The images were published in 1981. Vintage photograph of an attractive young physique model in faux bondage.
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