The last few weeks I’ve noticed a surge in new BDSM – Tops, I don’t look at Bottom’s normally.
Some were withdrawn almost instantly Many were blank, offering no hint or clue as to the man’s kinks, fetishes or requirements.
A guy with a blank profile wrote me. He gave me his AOL email address. I wrote the guy citing his invitation to contact him. I had a full profile, he had none: what should I say?
He responded saying he’d hoped I’d let him know what I was looking for. I like to think several hundred words in a profile gives a good indication of my desires. BDSM Romance is in my sig. He said he’d take a look at the site and get back to me.
He didn’t. Maybe he didn’t like what he saw here. Or felt that I’d been inadequate in communicating.
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Do tops have a policy of communicating badly to rebuff subs who don’t thread the needle of approaching a dom just so. I have been contacted by more than one dominant with whom I have shared very promising initial emails, only to be confused by lack of response, rescheduling or canceling initial meetings. Seriously wondering if this is an established technique for tops when initiating contact with a new sub? If so, how does one continue indicating interest without pestering or being inappropriately obsequious.
Both sides of the power exchange sometimes flake out.
They get scared – even tops – or confused or they see some quality they don’t like and don’t have the simple courtesy to say so.
Sometimes the top is just offline for a few days, as is the case with one who finally communicated while I was online. We met, it went alright but not someone I would have approached from across a crowded room. That is the other pitfall of internet contact.
I am struggling to get a new sub to communicate with me. I feel like I am battering my head against a brick wall trying to get some worthwhile responses. Could be fear or illiteracy but it will soon lead to a cessation of interest from me.
So it could be that there is little difference between tops and bottoms, some are just not worth the bother.
I met so many interesting and communicative dominant women via blogging that I forgot there might be tops who can’t or won’t communicate with clarity or grace.
I think all people who meet other people online are prone to flaking out, getting cold feet, having other interests come up, etc., and many will be too wimpy or thoughtless to let you know what’s happened. Being a strong person with integrity is helpful if you’re going to top someone, but it’s not always there.