Just when you think there are no kinky fantasies that you aren’t aware of:

i have fascism fantasies. submitting, recruiting others, having my entire world-view changed, etc. i like the idea of serving in a society of slaves…kind of a orwellian fascist fantasy…being controlled completely by the state. a powerful leader who uses complete obedience to create world peace and security in exchange for freedom. i like the idea of serving in a uniform.

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Fascism Fantasies
BDSM Romance - Notes on Power Exchange and S&M by an Erotically Electic Guy

On Recon I was running a profile with the colorless but plainspoken handle of Sane Masochist.

I’ve played with various user names and profile texts on and off since I first used the web to meet people back in 1999.

Sane Masochist attracted almost no profile views. The fewest of any profile that I’ve posted to Recon. Since no one read the profile it wasn’t the text but the name itself.

Nobody wanted a sane masochist. I’ll see how a more exiting name fares.

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Sane Masochist
BDSM Romance - Notes on Power Exchange and S&M by an Erotically Electic Guy

Very likely all online dating/hooking sites have such a feature. A button you can click on a person’s profile to express esteem without having to trouble with the actual composition of a message. On Recon it is called cruising someone.

At first the cruising that came my way made sense. The other guy’s profile was in some way complementary to mine. Nothing came of this. The men lived far away and were expressing approval of my profile.

Time passed and I started getting more and more cruises from distant men. Increasingly there was no match. If the profiles too minimal to have meaning or incoherent. One fellow had clearly just banged on the keyboard a few times. It might have been a monkey’s profile.

And some of them would cruise me repeatedly. But it didn’t really feel like the man in France with a profile in French was really trying to get me to write to him. He could’ve written to me.

Eventually a pattern began to emerge. These guys all had galleries. Usually photos of themselves, often more than a hundred. These guys are all attention whores.

This was confirmed for me when I read the profile of a man in Boston who sent me a cruise. It was a nice profile. So I looked at gallery of photos he took of his lover /slave. The next day I got a message from him demanding that I cruise him. After all hadn’t I looked at the photographs he’d put up.

Some of these guys are so diligent they get over a thousand profile views a month. Maybe a few of them are trying to increase the chance they’ll meet a compatible guy.

Some of them are probably men who are Masters or slaves only online. Their only validation in their perceived role is in having their profile and gallery looked at and being virtually cruised.

You can opt out of Recon’s cruise system.

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Attention Whores
BDSM Romance - Notes on Power Exchange and S&M by an Erotically Electic Guy

Okay, first things first regarding me doing your housework. I have no problem with this, but let’s face it, everyone wants me to do their housework. Every Dominant person in the country wants a slave to do their housework for them. So what’s so special about you, right? Let’s talk about the rest of the deal.

Hooray for him! (His ad overall is forthright and appealing.)

There’s no doubt that some tops think a D/s title or power exchange roles is far more of an entitlement than it is.

This isn’t a criticism of this kind of service submission. Just don’t be so desperate that you let people take advantage of you or use you in he wrong way. While it should be obvious it doesn’t hurt to state that bottoms, submissive persons and slaves are people.

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Housework
BDSM Romance - Notes on Power Exchange and S&M by an Erotically Electic Guy