BDSM Is Sexual Orientation

Being a sadistic or dominant person or masochistic or submissive person is a key part of personal identity. It can’t be changed. [...]

Ruined Orgasms Theory & Practice

Not quite a ruined orgasm FAQ, or even a definitive summary. Masochistic men want their orgasms ruined: how is that accomplished, it is really possible. [...]

Varieties of Corporal Punishment

As a male masochist I crave being whipped and beaten but being merely spanked by hand leaves me feeling indifferent and unsatisfied. [...]

Dominant Woman’s Pleasure in Her Sadism

A female top’s face transformed by her happiness in control and inflicting pain on a willing playmate. [...]

Clothespins & Pain (Or the Lack)

A masochist’s lament that his nipples were satisfactorily tortured. [...]

Funny Woman With a Whip

A sadist might be a comic. A scene or session might have qualities of comedy. [...]

Verbal Sadism

Many bottoms crave verbal humiliation. Many dominant person do not enjoy and will not engage in spoken sadomasochistic play. [...]

Emotional S&M

Many tops who enjoy physical sadism do not like or even understand an emotional masochist’s desire for humiliation and degradation. [...]

Contempt Play

Can a masochist’s need for humiliation, degradation be made more tolerable, acceptable to a dominant, sadist by changing terminology, words? [...]

Uncertain Topping

In BDSM dominant persons who feel hesitant or insecure may diminish their own satisfaction and that of their submissive partner or playmate. [...]